Everything's going great, and all of a sudden, the energy changes. How many times have you gone out on a first date? You like the woman. Everything's going great, and all of a sudden, the energy changes. It feels like she's been deflated. She tells you she's tired, and the next thing you know, you're driving her home in silence. And you wonder what happened.WHY HER MOOD CHANGED You kept wondering what you did wrong. On the drive home, you actually call a friend up, and you give him a recap of the date. And then you put to him a question that he will never be able to answer. At this point, you're making your friend become what I call a "dating speculator." You want your friend to speculate on what happened; you want him to tell you why this woman's energychanged at that moment. Your friend has no idea. He's never met her, and you've barely known her for two hours -- but you still want your friend to give you the answer on why the date changed.END THE SPECULATION We're never satisfied with the answers our friends give either. They just lead to more speculation. You wake up the next morning, and you're still wondering what went wrong. Is she going to call?When should you call her? Will she go out with you again? So you've got more speculation going on in your head. What do you do next? You go to the next friend, the No. 1 of your man-coaches. And you ask him what he thinks. And you add a few dimensions to the story when you get his opinion. Another day passes. She didn't call you. Meanwhile, you didn't call her because you were too busy speculating. You should have just gotten on the phone that night and said, "I had a great time. Let's get together again." You should have ended the questioning, but no, you wanted to go back into "speculator zone."GET OUT OF THE ZONE So the story keeps growing, and another friend gets called in, and the speculation becomes even crazier. You're even more in your head than you were before. You know what this is? This is what I call "speculation madness." You're never going to find the answer through guesswork with your friends about what went wrong on a date, why her mood changed, if she's going to call, or if she likes you. The only way you're going to figure that out is by getting on the phone, calling her and asking her out again. If she declines or does not call you back, it's over and done with, and you move on to the next woman. The less you speculate in life, the more pleasant you are. The more pleasant you are, the more you're actually going to enjoy life. If you're stuck in the speculation zone, I suggest you get out. And I suggest you stop driving your friends crazy. Form a pact with all your friends stipulating that none of you will speculate again. When any of you go into the speculation zone, immediately say, "Hang up with me, call this woman, ask her out again, and get this over with." You'll be driven crazy for your entire life unless you take this advice. Repost AskMen
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