So far, the struggle against domestic violence has been dominated by red herrings. One major red herring has been the idea that the woman brings on the abuse through low self-esteem. While there are situations in which the partner exploits low self-esteem, there are many other situations in which the abuse is an attempt to break the woman's high or moderate self-esteem in order to bludgeon her into subservience. Along with these situations, there are many others in which the abuse has nothing to do with self-esteem at all and is a result of - the partner hating or thinking badly about the person, the partner hating the other gender, or the partner believing that abuse is the way to go (is ordered by God, is part of loyalty to one's gender, is traditional, is "family values," and futher on along the same line). Ascribing all of these situations to low self-esteem when low self-esteem is a culprit in only a fraction of these situations completely misdiagnoses the problem and prevents real solutions from being achieved.
Origin: pualib.blogspot.com
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