She Wont Let Me Go Yet Wont Get Committed What Should I Do

I have this critical issue in my life, I've confided in a few friends and siblings and I feel I should also get some more opinion and views on what to do.

After Univ, I dint serve immediately, I got a job and decided to put service on hold, after 2 years on the job I decided to go for my NYSC. During my posting I met this Igbo girl and soon we became an item to the extent that she moved from her lodge and began to put up with me till we finished service. She was so nice and loving, she did everything good, lovey, dovey et, al... she desperately wanted us to get married but she was worried we'll have issues with her parents who won't want her to marry a non-igbo guy (note, I'm 3years older than her).

Her dad dis-owned her because of the role she played in the divorce with his ex-wife (her mom), though he thoroughly abused her mom but she also made me understand that if her dad is still in the picture he won't ever allow her marry me, but her mom could.

But as we speak, her dad is permanently out of her life, but her mom is doing everything possible to ensure she leaves me, to the extend that she told me one day when we had a fight that "Do you know how many of my relatives I'd fought because of you? When they call me to talk about I cut off from them" She said even her siblings are all behind her but her mom won't bulge, and her has practically reported her to all her relatives. Note: this same girl loves her mom crazily. Infact, I blv she loves her mom than even myself.

All these brouhaha has created a massive lacuna between us, this has created a big change in her character towards me, she no longer behaves as she use to, she's very careful around me, she sometimes finds it hard to show any affection, attention and amidst all these I have tried severally to break up with her but she has refused, yet I get nothing from the relationship, she doesn't even act like we are dating, yet she won't let me go. Whenever I try to leave she breaks down and starts crying... Then I stay again, yet no love, no affection, even calls and pings sef na wahala... Telling her 'I love you" she brings up smthing else like "have you eaten?"

To also add, last year on her bday, I promposed to her she accepted instantly and we both planned how to meet her mom to start the marraige plans but it staled cos her mom dint allow me come over, this year I asked her about we settling down and she said she'll think about it.

I'm really fed up... Don't know what to do! I really need your views and advice on what I must do.

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